Thursday, July 14, 2011

Our Birth Mother

*Before you read this- we want you to know, we in no way habor ill feelings toward our birth mother. True, our hearts our hurting, and we feel frustration, but please find it in your heart to feel peace, and to pray for our birth mother. She loves Izze, just as much as we do.*

Today was the court hearing for the birth mother to wave her parental rights. We were dreading this day, and looking forward to it. Hoping that only good news could come from this meeting. But alas, within a few minutes of walking through the door of the court house, we knew something was wrong. We hadn't fully expected the birth mother to show up, but she did, and when I went to acknowledge her, and say hello, she couldn't even look at me. We knew then, that it wasn't going to go as smooth as we had thought.

We got into the court room, and within a few minutes were seated at our tables. The judge came in, and after a few short comments he, turned to the birth mother and asked if she gave her consent, and she replied, she did not. It broke my heart to hear her say that. It was then followed by several accusations in regards to us lying to her, denying her visitation, ect. It was hard to sit there and listen to the things she had to say. Especially after I feel we have been more than fair to her during this whole procedure.

The judge then turned, and told us that we should petition for the parental rights to be revoked, and that we should do it as soon as possible. He then signed a court order stating that we would have temporary custody during the proceedings. My heart sank, as I sat and listened to the birth mother complain to her group of supportors. That she felt she had choosen the wrong family to adopt her child, or that she was sincerely bitter for what we had supposidly done to her.

We don't want to fight, we want these to be peaceful proceedings, and for everyone to be happy. It's hard to believe that less than 5 months ago, we didn't even have the intentions of having a child by the 4th of July. We could have never imagined that our lives would change with just a phone call.

I love our birth mother, I love what she has done for us, she brought us that much closer to being a family. She helped a part of our dream come true. Something that we had been struggling to do on our own for over two years, she gave to us. We love our little girl, and I cannot imagine her not being with us. We have so many hopes and dreams for the future, and want the birth mother to share those milestones with us.

We are currently asking for prayers, and for a participation to fast this Sunday. Not just for peaceful proceedings, but for the birth mother to find peace in her heart, and joy in her decision.

Thank you all for your support, and for your understanding, we have truly been blessed with love, and unconditional support from those around us, family, friends, and strangers united.



Oh no! That must be so hard for you. But what a positive and faithful attitude you all have. We will surely pray for you.
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I'm so sorry that it's turning into this type of situation. :( We will definitely be praying for you guys! I would check out the FSA website if you want to talk to other people who have gone through difficult adoptions. At the conference there were quite a few people I spoke with who had adoption situations similar to yours. We will keep you in our prayers!

Muriel Miller

Oh my goodness Sarah we will definitely be keeping you in our prayers! You have such an amazing positive attitude and I look up to you for that! I am so sorry that you guys have to go through all of this!

Senior Family

We will be praying ! You truely are amazing .

Rachel Carter

Sara, you're incredible! What an amazing daughter of God you're. I was crying the whole time I read this. I am so sorry for all that hardships, but I know that the Lord is there for you, your family and the birthmother. I Love you so very very much. I will pray and fast for you. You're incredible. Keep up the faith. "Be of good cheer and know that I am with you".
Much love!
P.S. hope you will be at G-ma's this sunday because I haven't even meet your sweet Izze. CANNOT WAIT :D love you so much!